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---Kathy said she knows what her parents are going through isn't uncommon, and she wants their story to lead to changes in the health-care system. "Can we look at this as far as all couples? We don't do this to children, then why is it OK to do this with seniors, because this is very detrimental to both of them," she said. "We're hoping that they can look at couples as a unique situation and that we that shouldn't be treating this differently as [a] one person [case]. They are two people that need to be together to keep their social and emotional help sound."-------------Syd Glenesk was admitted into Deer Lodge Centre three weeks ago, but his wife Lorraine Glenesk has been unable to make the move with him. "Don't forget, I love you," Syd said ------"Just looking at the demographics, this is going to happen more often," said Menec, a professor in the department of community health sciences at the University of Manitoba. -------"The question will be, 'Will there be a response to that, and what kind of response, given that financial issues are always a problem?'"---Mental health conditions that develop in old age can have a dramatic effect on couples that are separated, Menec said. "If there is dementia involved, losing that anchor can be a real challenge," Menec said. "There could be a confusion when that familiar other is no longer around."


Syd and Lorraine Glenesk hadn't spent more than a couple days apart in the nearly 65 years they've been married before Syd's recent move, their daughter Kathy says.
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Julie Ali There is no reason for this sort of destabilization of patients in this way. Essential for dementia cases to be in a routine and with loved ones near. Shameful.
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The planning to fail in the continuing care system continues because this is the way government all over Canada has ensured that they not spend the money that has to be spent to ensure adequate continuing care as well as reasonable access in terms of placement.
In Alberta the deliberate policy to refuse to invest in senior placements means that money is provided to the private sector real estate developers and non-profits to build assets that they can then run according to their own requirements. Government does not mandate staff:resident ratios and does not provide oversight of any effective sort or why else was the AHS run Lacombe facility full of non-compliances in a recent CCHSS audit? Even when complaints are made by families little is done. In the case of the Lacombe facility I guess AHS and Alberta Health found it difficult to ignore a group of nursing students.
 The planning to fail is evident to us when we see such tolerated non-compliances, when we hear of banning of families as in the recent case of the Tucker family of Grande Prairie:
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PLEASE SHARE!!!! It breaks by heart to have my mom in a emergency room bed were at least dad can now visit her . A care home in grande prairie has abused my mom for the last time . We are now taking up space in an emergency room while awaiting for a doctor to help us find a spot . The care home today slammed the door in my face as I tried to talk to them. As I had to remove mom s belongings out of there so the abuse can't continue. Dad fought with them for years with documentation and pics plenty of proof to put them under . But everyone turns a blind eye to the abuse and call it un founded . The judge without any looking at foundings or proof just say your banned and any further cost comes to dad? How does a retirement man pay for lawyer fees. I want this banning my dad from the care home for a full year without visiting rights to go viral . He has legal guardianship to be her voice from a court but means nothing . How does the justice system work ? She cannot speak for herself . Please share the shit outta this . Media here I come
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We understand that in failing to plan--the decision is to not do the work of government which ultimately results in suffering for seniors; in this case it is divorce by government.

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No reason in my mind for such divorce by the government but it will continue to happen. Why? Well it's because government will not ever produce the number of continuing care placements required to meet demand. It is apparently not the responsibility of government to do it's due diligence and plan effectively for the upsurge in dementia cases that are coming up much less the major numbers of seniors who will require continuing care in Canada.

What we have is an abdication of the role of government in favour of letting the private sector take care of the mess. In fact, this mess is being turned over to the global continuing care providers like human rights abusers from China in the case of Anbang in BC.
We have the finest government all around us who are willing to sell the care of seniors to the private sector and to the foreign caregivers who have money coming from where? Good question. Just where is the money from China coming from?

The federal government and the provincial governments don't care about seniors. They want to throw this leaky issue to the foreign investors and we've already seen how domestic investors are like in Alberta. It's troubling.

But there you go. Here is another couple who are divorced by government -this time in Manitoba. Very sad.

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The planning to fail in the continuing care system continues and the only folks penalized are the seniors without a voice in our society.
It is perfectly reasonable for government to provide continuing care facilities where couples could live out their final years but due to the refusal of government to do the work required in provision of such continuing care facilities we have these stories of couples split up because of inadequate placement openings.
If government is able to aid industry -such as the oil and gas industry in terms of subsidies and in Alberta to the tune of $235 million for an orphan well program that is the responsibility of the industry why can't the government aid families? I'll tell you why. We don't count.
Best to think of this as deliberate planning to fail or why else is there no dementia strategy in Alberta? Why are there seniors still stuck in hospitals in Alberta waiting for placement? Why? Planning to fail and succeeding.

A Manitoba couple that has been together for 64 years has been split up as one of them continues to sit on a waitlist weeks after the other was admitted to a care home…
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'Don't forget, I love you': Couple married 64 years split apart as husband admitted to care home

Lorraine Glenesk on waitlist for weeks to join husband, Syd, in 24-hour care facility

By Bryce Hoye, CBC News Posted: Jun 16, 2017 4:16 PM CT Last Updated: Jun 16, 2017 4:23 PM CT
Syd (left) and Lorraine (right) hadn't spent more than a couple days apart in the nearly 65 years they've been married before Syd's recent move, their daughter Kathy Glenesk says.
Syd (left) and Lorraine (right) hadn't spent more than a couple days apart in the nearly 65 years they've been married before Syd's recent move, their daughter Kathy Glenesk says. (Kathy Glenesk)
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A Manitoba couple that has been together for 64 years has been split up as one of them continues to sit on a waitlist weeks after the other was admitted to a care home in Winnipeg.
"It really hurts to see," Kathy Glenesk, daughter of Syd and Lorraine Glenesk, said Friday.
Syd Glenesk was admitted into Deer Lodge Centre three weeks ago, but his wife Lorraine Glenesk has been unable to make the move with him.
"Don't forget, I love you," Syd said in a family video, viewed 12,000 times in two days on Facebook, while saying goodbye to his wife.
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"I won't forget dear," Lorraine responded.
The family is appealing to Deer Lodge to expedite the waiting process so the pair, married in 1952, can be reunited.

'Teary and sad'

"It's very hard not to be teary and sad with them, because we are watching their pain," said Kathy Glenesk. "Everything that they've done has been as a team."
Syd and Lorraine both live with complex health issues. Syd had brain surgery in his 50s and has had problems with his memory ever since. He now has dementia and has relied on Lorraine for years, Kathy Glenesk said.
Syd and Lorraine Glenesk
Lorraine (left) holds Syd's hand (second from right) as the Syd sits on Santa's lap at Christmas. (Kathy Glenesk)
Lorraine has also lived with health challenges for years. She broke her neck in 2009 and relies on a wheelchair to get around, and she was forced to retire from teaching in her 40s when she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.
"My dad became her physical support," Kathy Glenesk said.
Syd got into Deer Lodge sooner than others in a similar position because he is a veteran, Kathys says, which meant he was given special consideration when it came time for him to enter an assisted-living facility.
"It's very strange after all these years going into an empty apartment by myself," Lorraine said. "There's a lot of things I realized he helped me with just automatically. I had to look around for someone to help."

Fear of losing spot

The couple was first interviewed in September to determine their needs. Kathy said in order for her parents to both eventually end up in the same 24-hour care facility, one of them had to make the transition solo and the other would wait until more space opened up.
"We've been stating all along that we really wanted them to go together, and even with my dad's dementia he's been saying, 'Wherever she goes, I go,'" Kathy said.
  • Syd and Lorraine Glenesk married in 1952. As of Friday, the couple had been separated for three weeks, as Syd was admitted to Deer Lodge Centre while his wife remains on a waiting list.
  • Syd and Lorraine Glenesk married in 1952. As of Friday, the couple had been separated for three weeks, as Syd was admitted to Deer Lodge Centre while his wife remains on a waiting list. (Kathy Glenesk)
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"If we waited we would lose a spot, so we just decided that this must be our best way to get them both in faster, but perhaps didn't realize that it would take mom this long," Kathy said, adding the family hasn't been given a firm timeline for when Lorraine can expect to be admitted.
"For my mom, it's stressful for her and she's very teary and calling us multiple times in the day.… She's worried about him but it's also affecting her health and mental state."

More separation coming

Health officials across Canada are bracing for a wave of aging baby boomers who could place a strain on the health and home-care systems in the coming years. Separation stories like the Glenesks', then, are likely to become even more common than they already are, said Verena Menec.
"Just looking at the demographics, this is going to happen more often," said Menec, a professor in the department of community health sciences at the University of Manitoba.
'If there is dementia involved, losing that anchor can be a real challenge.'- Verena Menec
"The question will be, 'Will there be a response to that, and what kind of response, given that financial issues are always a problem?'"
Menec was involved in the Age Friendly Communities research project, which sought to better understand how things like housing and accessibility make life challenging in neighbourhoods for seniors.
Mental health conditions that develop in old age can have a dramatic effect on couples that are separated, Menec said.
"If there is dementia involved, losing that anchor can be a real challenge," Menec said. "There could be a confusion when that familiar other is no longer around."
Gina Trinidad, chief operating officer of long-term care for the Winnipeg Regional Health Authority, said the priority in these cases is to reunite couples.
"We don't often have both spouses requiring placement at the same time," Trinidad said. "What we will do is we might prioritize the remaining spouse for placement into that same personal care home and ensure that is done as quickly as possible."
Before that can be done, Trinidad said health officials have to ensure both people are eligible for personal care-home placement and that the desired facility has enough space free.
Trinidad advises families to work with care co-ordinators to facilitate the placement preferences for both spouses, "and to certainly inform us of the importance of them remaining together."

'She's a good kisser'

Kathy said she knows what her parents are going through isn't uncommon, and she wants their story to lead to changes in the health-care system.
"Can we look at this as far as all couples? We don't do this to children, then why is it OK to do this with seniors, because this is very detrimental to both of them," she said.
"We're hoping that they can look at couples as a unique situation and that we that shouldn't be treating this differently as [a] one person [case]. They are two people that need to be together to keep their social and emotional help sound."
For now, the family plans to keep taking Lorraine for regular visits to see Syd.
"I miss her because she's a good kisser," Syd said.​
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mom is at hospital now we're they are caring for her very well , we are still making plans for the near future for mom. I wanna thank anyone with positive feed back on here . The negative post are being blocked because that's not why this post is on here . It's to make awareness to all the people with there loved ones in a care facility . My mom was abused and I have to keep trying to get justice . We have proof but just like every other case that has been sent to me it's all covered up just like moms case . There are a lot of great care workers in our country and thank you for being great care takers ,but there are really bad ones and management that get those reports as we reported and slam the door on your face and don't wanna hear you bring it up .they call it lies .well people keep the positive rolling in maybe tell your story without posting names or a place for slander reasons but make people aware this does go on everyday . Protect our love ones in a home .
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April Pearl Martin This totally breaks my heart to know once we have no other choice at times to place our loved ones in a care facility and this is the way they get treated this is traumatic and this is callous of people we think that can care for our loved ones Stephen we should all set up a rally and rally outside the care facility in grande prairie and make this go viral fast
Evelyn Burke Morrison God Bless your 💞Mom /Dad💞 & Family . My Heart goes out to you all I use to care for the Elderly for yrs because I luved it & it was my passion to see them & talk to them daily even if they couldn't respond 💞 I'd always see the story in their eyes 💞 I've learned so much from looking after our elderly population & have enjoyed it with all my heart ❤️ God Bless & take care I pray ur family gets justice ❤️🙏❤️


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 for the last time . We are now taking up space in an emergency room while awaiting for a doctor to help us find a spot . The care home today slammed the door in my face as I tried to talk to them. As I had to remove mom s belongings out of there so the abuse can't continue. Dad fought with them for years with documentation and pics plenty of proof to put them under . But everyone turns a blind eye to the abuse and call it un founded . The judge without any looking at foundings or proof just say your banned and any further cost comes to dad? How does a retirement man pay for lawyer fees. I want this banning my dad from the care home for a full year without visiting rights to go viral . He has legal guardianship to be her voice from a court but means nothing . How does the justice system work ? She cannot speak for herself . Please share the shit outta this . Media here I come

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PLEASE SHARE!!!! It breaks by heart to have my mom in a emergency room bed were at least dad can now visit her . A care home in grande prairie has abused my mom...
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Julie Ali I hope you are making progress on this issue and that your family is OK.
Susan Tracey Thinking of your family. Is, there anyway you can get this on the news ie W5. Keep, posting it so this isn't ignored,anymore. It's,shameful.My, prayers 🙏🏻

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Julie Ali The Wildrose Party is holding the GOA accountable as in the case of the Lacombe long term care facility -have you gone to the Wildrose folks?http://www.lacombeglobe.com/.../serious-health-concerns...

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Julie Ali Cold Lake workers fired; also note related care issues article at facility.http://globalnews.ca/.../workers-at-an-alberta-seniors.../

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Joey Davidson Such a shame!! Prayers to the family and for this dear sweet lady!

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